Monday, September 26, 2005

To tell or not to tell

A new lady in our midst. Just happens that she is recently married to a man some years her senior. But she has not realised that there are vultures about. Vultures prying her privacy and then piecing it off to the others.

Details that should only be kept between man and wife is suddenly known by several people and before you know it, everyone will know.

Should I tell her to be careful to whom she tells her personal details to? But perhaps she would learn about the people around her, herself.

I have a personal policy of non interference. But she is a nice and friendly person, and I cringe to think that some people are capitalizing on her naivety.

Why oh why do I bother myself with these things!? Tsk Tsk Tsk.

Stay away! Often they’d just shoot the messenger.

12 comments:

mobilemom said...

Sometimes it's best to be left alone. If we open our mouth, lain pulak jadi.

My suggestion..stay away and observe at the same time be nice and be honest to her with your friendship. It pays off. :)

Leen Ash Burn said...

i'd go with MM as well...unless she asks you specifically whats wrong lah. hehehe

Lollies said...

delicate delicate.

yes unless she ask

auntylela said...

Reminds me of a kitten entering a cage full of tigers.
Habislah anak kucing tu!

NurElsa said...

Last year, my niece - a very close cousins's daughter, called me to tell that her dad (my cousin's hubby) was having an affair. It was just horrying to know that bit of info. She and her brothers felt that they could only talked to me. I was torn, wether to tell my cousin or not. I shared this bit of info with another cousin (from my dad's side who doesnt know this affair-problem cousins) and she firmly told me that if this ever happen to her (Nauzubillah), she wants me to TELL HER. I was sooo torn.

In the end, I asked the kids to confront their dad, instead they called up the 'other' woman & bashed her. She left the dad, and since the dad knew dah yang the kids dah tau, he also takut la...

I must say, it was just sooo horrifying tau at that time, whether to tell, or not to tell... And I am sure, if my cousin ever got to know that I knew, and didnt tell, mampus la I!

Sunflora said...

MM errkk I am a hermit crab. I generally just stay away from people ;)

Leen I hope tak sampai a pt when she ask me anything la. I stay away.

Lollies I guess I'd have to use Woolite huh ;)

KakLela tu laa kesian anak kucing tu.

NurElsa, tu la torn between telling and not telling. I chose the path of not telling, but I guess it just bothers me that there are some people who thrive so much on koreking one's person's personal life and then go round cerita cerita kat orang lain.

Jiwa Rasa said...

SF,

If I were you, I'll shoot the vultures. Remind her to mind her own business and don't tell stories about others...Let her known that you're not interested in hearing her stories.

Dame RoSse said...

Arwah ayah saya pernah berkata kalau kita nak beritahu pada seseorang tentang sesuatu yang mungkin membuatnya terguris, kita beritahulah melalui suatu cerita, Contohnya;"Peah, saya nak minta pendapat awaklah tentang sesuatu, saya ni ada kawan nama dia Britney, baru saja berumahtangga, orangnya peramah... Jadi apa pendapat awak ye." Kalau orang tu dapat tangkap maksud, Alhamdullilah, kalau tidak, Insyallah coming soon...

cheers.

atiza said...

if i were you, i'd just stay away..

Yam said...

Not sure what I would do. I guess differs between situations kot.

In this case, I'd probably maintain my silence.

Yeah, unless she personally asked la.

madnessinvain said...

Shoot ems vultures. Kepochi!

Oreos said...

tough choice this. hmm... let us know what u decide.